Uncle Bob is Dressing like a Lady

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 15 Apr 2009

I just returned from visiting my Uncle Bob who at age 85 has started dressing as a “Lady.” My Aunt Eleanor died about a year and a half ago and he says, “I’ve always lived as others expected of me. …

After the Cuddle Party

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 02 Mar 2009

I brought my boyfriend to his first Cuddle Party. I was in training to be a Cuddle Party leader and the first evening of the training was an actual party for trainers and friends. Though I had attended a couple …

Come to me, Baby!

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 03 Jan 2009

Men often seek me out at a party and ask for some quick sex tip to make a Lover pool like hot honey in their arms. Since I love men, love their curiosity, love their playful spirit, and and love …

Enticing a Reluctant Partner

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 18 Dec 2008

As an intimacy coach I run across men who want to involve their partner but don’t know how to introduce the idea. Or I run across women who want to come to a couple’s workshop, but think their boyfriend won’t. …

How to Invite Someone Over (for a juicy time)

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 21 Nov 2008

I wanted to hear my sexy California man say, “Honey, I miss you. I want to be with you. Please come and spend time with me this Thanksgiving?” And being generous, he would add, “I’ll take care of your plane …

When a Relationship Ends

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 06 Nov 2008

Recently a friend in pain came to me for help. She was suffering from ending a love relationship. I got to thinking, every intimate relationship I’ve ever had (except the one I’m in now) has ended.  Some with ease, most …

My big O Birthday

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 19 Sep 2008

On the eve of celebrating a birthday, one easily becomes introspective and even a little somber.  Birthdays, especially the decade ones, are milestones to measure how we are moving away or towards our life’s purpose.

I’ve noticed how my work in …

Vacations are Great for Flirting

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 15 Jul 2008

I’m starting this blog just as I head out on vacation. Here’s how I plan to turn a humorless airport scene into an adventure.  I’m going to flirt–with whoever and whenever I choose.  Why?  Because I can.  And so can …

The Kissing Game: Taking Turns at the Lead

Filed under: Charla's Musings - 15 Jul 2008

If you’d like to spend a great 30 minutes with …