Come to me, Baby!

Men often seek me out at a party and ask for some quick sex tip to make a Lover pool like hot honey in their arms. Since I love men, love their curiosity, love their playful spirit, and and love that they want to be the very best lover for us women, I feel privileged that they ask me this vital question (even though they may not ask their Lover!)

Of course, in answering I could take up the rest of the party and neither of us would get in much flirting (unless it was with each other), and I would  be giving away level 1, 2 , 3 and 4 of my precious sex coaching work.  So I often pick just one (intuitive) thing to say…and often it is the following:

The man in the dance of lovemaking needs to hold space for the woman.  He is the container and any magician knows that magic needs a container.  The man needs to learn and practice the fine art of “doing” by “not doing”.  He needs to hold still and let the woman come to him.  The woman is the dance, light and energy of lovemaking, and given space will let her natural sensuality flow.

Holding space is not done by penetration, being active, and initiating.  I know this goes against everything you as men have culturally been told or seen in the movies.   All I can say is try it, and then write a comment on my blog!

Charla, the Intimacy Imp