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7 Erotic Nights–a course in Pleasure

7eroticnights for singles, dating and committed partners

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Start tonight!  Students say, “It’s the best part of my week!”

Enjoy Dr. Charla’s gentle, hands-on encounters for 7 sequential sessions that teach deep pleasure and lasting intimacy. Enjoy learning in your own home, scheduling sessions at your convenience, once a week for 7 weeks. Her online video & ebook guide each 2-hour session of sensual touching, talk and play. Join Coach Charla and other students on a personal phone call each week for more guidance and inspiration on your juicy ‘homework!’

Students say, “I love the committed, uninterrupted time to put intimacy first.” One man said, “I discovered a new continent!” A woman said, “It was like being courted all over again.”  Students say, “The sessions are well-crafted, tailored and thought out. We fell in love all over again.”

Start 7eroticnights tonight & receive all 7 session’s videos & ebook. Join Charla on her next coaching call, Wed, 8:30 pm CST (on-going). Complete the course in 7-12 weeks (limit 16 students). Activities are sensual not sexual.  Questions, call Charla 512 626 5037.

Charla Hathaway is a PhD. sex & intimacy coach, founder of Austin’s BodyJoy Intimacy School, and author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Pleasure for Extended Arousal. She has guided thousands of students into vibrant, erotically awake relationships. 

Smokin’ Hot Erotic Massage

How to Give & Receive a Smokin’ Hot Erotic Massage (or a tender one, or any other kind)

 Austin, for singles, dating & committed partners, $100/person, $180 w/ a friend  with Dr. Charla Hathaway of BodyJoy 

How Many?

It’s easy to find a video of snazzy strokes for interesting body parts. But if it’s not what the receiver wants – it’s not so hot. How to find out and follow what the receiver wants? That’s this class. It’s not quite as easy as fancy strokes – but brings way more pleasure and connection. For both of you. It turns out that the most important part of the erotic massage is the communication. Who knew? And the other side – when you are on the table, how do you know what you want, much less trust it and communicate it? We’ll cover that, too. Wow – you can actually be touched the way you want? Yes, you can! And don’t worry, I’ll even include a few snazzy strokes.

This class includes nudity and sexual touch. It is intended only for those who are *already* comfortable with nudity in a group setting. Please be honest with yourself about that. Nothing is required. You may keep some of your clothes on for the entire time (including your time on the table), and you may choose to be touched in whatever way you like – sexual or not.

I teach other workshops that are clothed with sensual/no sexual touching – including the one the day before, Finding the Sweet Spot–Giving and Getting just the Touch you Want

Limited to 16 persons all genders and sexual orientations welcome.  If you come with a partner you are welcome to stay together (or not) according to your preference.

About ‘gender balancing’: Most people, when creating an erotic event, allow only equal numbers of male and female participants. I do not – for many reasons. We are learning here, not hooking up. You can learn these skills with persons of any genital configuration and any gender. Plus, not everyone fits neatly into the categories you might think they do. Quite often, setting aside gender in order to learn and explore is profoundly liberating. Many people have told me that was the biggest ‘Aha’. So – if you want to touch only people of a particular gender, your best bet is to bring one of them with you. A note to single women – it’s easy to feel like you are responsible to be available. You are not. I am a big mother bear when it comes to making sure everyone has what they need to learn and to feel safe. C’mon along. I’m going to show you how to be touched in the way you want.


The perfect prequel to this workshop is the one the day before: Finding the Sweet Spot–Giving and getting just the Touch you Want.  It’s clothed and clarifies the real differences between receiving and giving (which is not what you think.)

Finding the Sweet Spot: Giving & Getting the Touch you Want

w/ Dr. Charla Hathaway, for singles and couples

How Many?

Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving (or getting) exactly the touch that feels good on our body!  Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously, but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback.

How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection?  Learn through structured, sweet activities to find out what you want, ask for it, fine tune the touch you are getting, and give verbal feedback on the touch you receive.  You never have to touch or be touched by anyone except who you choose.  All touching is non-sexual and clothes remain on.

You learn good erotic communication skills that make you feel relaxed, safe and sensual. Students often remark, “I could feel more. I didn’t have to worry about guessing or getting it right. Everything slowed down.”  Practicing clear boundaries will broaden your choices…and make sex more exciting!

The magic of  this workshop is that anxiety about performance melts into a natural curiosity for the moment.  You begin ‘noticing’ instead of ‘thinking,’ and ‘being’ instead of ‘controlling.’ Your skin wakes up.  You grow in erotic confidence, trust, and expression.

The Sweet Spot workshop is for you if:

  • You know there is something deeper in sex, but not sure how to find it
  • You love and care for each other, but can’t quite find the key to loving your love life
  • You have been experimenting with Tantra, but find it awkward and contrived
  • You’re a better giver than receiver; you feel vulnerable receiving; your pleasure comes from giving to others because it’s hard to access your own pleasure
  • You want to have more fun!

It’s a workshop for teachers, mind and body therapists, erotic educators, surrogate partners and LOVERS!  You walk away with tools to bring more satisfying touch into your life.



Female Erotic Massage–Demo class: TBA

Demo Class

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Women, feel the excitement that comes from knowing what is erotically possible and how to make it happen for you. Men, learn the female anatomy of arousal like never before, how to stimulate the ‘clit’ between her ears, and what to say and what to do to give her the best experience.  Charla demonstrates on a lovely female model new and exciting erotic touch techniques, covers female anatomy, and how and why women surrender (or not!) Participants do not massage each other (like in Charla’s Intro to Couples Tantra Loving class), though you to practice strokeson the model.

Charla shows you how to prepare a sensual space for a woman to ”receive.”  She teaches how to heat up her feminine yin energy to a slow, rolling boil. Charla covers the fascinating and little talked about female internal network of erectile equipment!  You’ll never ‘have to guess’ when is it time to penetrate her inner sanctum again. You’ll learn 3 ways to spike her desire so she’ll desire you more!

Men, women, single or paired, learn erotic massage that relaxes, heals, rejuvenates your hearts.  Learn erotic massage with clear  permission and expectations.  Learn how safety becomes the backdrop for erotic trance states.  This is a one of a kind class taught by an expert.  Deepen your pleasure and intimacy with new confidence and touch skills.  Great lovers are not born, they are made.

To register go and click on Classes & Events. You’ll receive confirmation and location of class.  Limited enrollment to the first 13 people, this class sells out.

What others say:

I learned more in a couple hours than in ten years of marriage.  Robert, 37

I’m 54 years old and you can read all you want, you can talk to other men all you want, but hearing it from two expert women and practicing the strokes makes all the difference.  John

I learned so much about how to talk with my lover about the touch I want.  I learned that I can get what I want and feel connected to him at the same time.  Charla’s a master at making hard things to talk about seem easy.  I’m so thankful.   Ashley

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and author of8 Erotic NightsandErotic Massage. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel. Visit her at, 512-626-5037


Male Erotic Massage–Demo class: TBA

Demo Class

Central Austin

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Men are naturally capable of multiple, whole body orgasms and prolonged waves of bliss…just as women are.  Learn to massage his ‘hidden cock’ and find new ways to open a man’s profound capacity for of internal and external orgasmic joy. Men and Women, come to this class if you desire to honor and touch the male body to encourage his deep surrender, emotional release and spiritual connection.

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Charla Hathaway, and best-selling author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in 7 languages), demonstrates on a live male model how to give a man a full body, sensual massage. She covers male anatomy, how to prepare a man for “receiving” deep bodywork, full body strokes, genital massage, and external and internal prostate massage.  Participants do not massage each other (like in her Intro to Couples Tantra Loving  class).  You are invited (your choice) to try the strokes on the model.

Many men have not experienced massage without feeling pressure to perform or “give back.” Often men have not learned to experience the sensual journey instead of focusing on a destination. Many have yet to discover the pleasure of perineum and prostate exploration.  A man receiving this kind of massage may enjoy extended Erotic Trance States and heightened potency, pleasure, and health–including prostate health.

Students are amazed at how comfortable they feel in the company of others learning such sensitive material.  You will drop a sense of shame, separation and isolation around the body, and begin to enjoy, within a community of fellow seekers, an authentic and sacred connection to the body erotic.


“I had no idea how many ways to pleasure a man.  I was in a rut without even knowing it.”  Annie

“Charla is a pro at the body and she talks so easily about sex.  I’m encouraged to drop my shyness.”  Cara

“I had no idea how wired by pleasure my body was and how easy it is to stay in that grove for a long time.”  Roger ,27 years

To register go to & events. You’ll receive confirmation and directions to the class. Limited enrollment to first 13 people, this class sells out.

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexologist and author of Erotic Massage and 8 Erotic Nights. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel.