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Love & Intimacy Retreat – Oct 23-25

Love and Intimacy Retreat With Charla & Nicole

October 23 – 25, San Antonio, TX

Are you ready to experience a miracle in your relationships? Join with others who are taking love, intimacy and sensuality to the next level. If you desire to move past the barriers that keep you apart…, you are ready!

  • Engage with others while staying connected to yourself.
  • Enjoy playful and powerful exercises in which you express your joy, depth and vulnerability with others.
  • Experience what comes up in each moment with calm and curiosity.

What will I learn?

Click the image below to view a full page flyer (PDF) for full details on the retreat. Then return to this page for registration information (below).

Love and Intimacy Retreat 2015

How Do I Register?

Securely using the PayPal Button below

or call Charla @ 512-626-5037

Meet Your Facilitators

Nicole and CharlaNicole Verwey, LMFT, MS, Licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Life Coach, Relationship Coach and Workshop Facilitator, teaches people through play and coaching “How to Win the Love Game”. A gifted healer, native of Holland, Nicole is initiated as an Oneness Blessing Giver and bestows blessings liberally. 512-670-3955, or visit my website:

Charla Hathaway, PhD, Certified Sexologist, Tantra educator and intimacy coach has inspired over 3000 people to enjoy greater sacred, sensual embodiment. She authored “8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex”, and best selling “Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure: (available in nine languages. 512-626-5037 or visit my website:

7 Erotic Nights – Nov 1

7 Erotic Nights, a course in intimacy and pleasure, guides you and a partner through a series of activities to learn new ways to talk, touch and play together.  The course consist of seven 2-hour sessions done once a week for 7 weeks, where you enjoy gentle, hands-on encounters that teach the building blocks of lasting intimacy.  The exercises, short and sweet, simple and profound, more sensual than sexual, invite you to reconnect in a relaxed pleasure.  One man said, “I discovered a new continent.”

7 Erotic Nights gives you get the best of two worlds—you play in the privacy of your home and you study as part of a group of 7 other couples (some from around the world!).  Charla facilitates periodic group check ins by phone conferencing, where you learn from the teacher and other couples who voice their insights, challenges and successes (anonymously if desired).  Students say being part of a group is fun and motivating, “You do your homework, but just as much learning (and fun) happens when the whole group gets together to talk about their homework experiences.”  Another graduate said, “Doing it with a group kept us going and made for a richer experience.”

Charla begins the course with a Welcome Call to the group where she outlines the adventure ahead.  For the next 7 weeks, once a week, you receive her short instructional video that preps you for the juiciness of the next erotic night, along with a short written guide.  Yummy.  Charla monitors a private 7 Erotic Nights Facebook Group during the course where couples post questions, comments, highlights and receive daily inspiration.

At the end of the course you are invited to join other 7 Erotic Nights graduates for a weekend retreat (additional tuition) where Charla takes your skills to a new level in a group setting.  The retreats, spring and fall at lovely resort locations, let you celebrate your achievements in conscious community and further your journey into intimacy.

To learn more, visit and register for yourself and a partner to start your next erotic adventure!

Finding the Sweet Spot

Day Workshop with Charla

Next Date TBA, Central Austin, $85/person or $160 w/ a friend

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Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving (or getting) exactly the touch that feels good on our body!  Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously, but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback.

How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection?  Learn through structured, sweet activities to offer and request touch, negotiate the touch you want, and give verbal feedback on the touch you receive.

Practice good erotic communication skills that make you feel safe, relaxed, and sensual. Participants often remark, “I could feel more. I didn’t have to worry about guessing or getting it right. Everything slowed down.”  Expressing clear boundaries makes your playing field bigger…and more exciting!

In this workshop, you will expand your erotic self awareness, trust, and expression. Anxiety about performance melts away and a natural curiosity emerges.  Activities are sensual, not sexual. Couples may choose to practice together; Singles are welcome.  Email Charla for location

Female Erotic Massage

Demo Class

Central Austin

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Women, feel the excitement that comes from knowing what is erotically possible and how to make it happen for you. Men, learn the female anatomy of arousal like never before, how to stimulate the ‘clit’ between her ears, and what to say and what to do to give her the best experience.  Charla demonstrates on a lovely female model new and exciting erotic touch techniques, covers female anatomy, and how and why women surrender (or not!) Participants do not massage each other (like in Charla’s Intro to Couples Tantra Loving class), though you to practice strokeson the model.

Charla shows you how to prepare a sensual space for a woman to ”receive.”  She teaches how to heat up her feminine yin energy to a slow, rolling boil. Charla covers the fascinating and little talked about female internal network of erectile equipment!  You’ll never ‘have to guess’ when is it time to penetrate her inner sanctum again. You’ll learn 3 ways to spike her desire so she’ll desire you more!

Men, women, single or paired, learn erotic massage that relaxes, heals, rejuvenates your hearts.  Learn erotic massage with clear  permission and expectations.  Learn how safety becomes the backdrop for erotic trance states.  This is a one of a kind class taught by an expert.  Deepen your pleasure and intimacy with new confidence and touch skills.  Great lovers are not born, they are made.

To register go and click on Classes & Events. You’ll receive confirmation and location of class.  Limited enrollment to the first 13 people, this class sells out.

What others say:

I learned more in a couple hours than in ten years of marriage.  Robert, 37

I’m 54 years old and you can read all you want, you can talk to other men all you want, but hearing it from two expert women and practicing the strokes makes all the difference.  John

I learned so much about how to talk with my lover about the touch I want.  I learned that I can get what I want and feel connected to him at the same time.  Charla’s a master at making hard things to talk about seem easy.  I’m so thankful.   Ashley

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and author of8 Erotic NightsandErotic Massage. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel. Visit her at, 512-626-5037


Male Erotic Massage

Demo Class

Central Austin

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Men are naturally capable of multiple, whole body orgasms and prolonged waves of bliss…just as women are.  Learn to massage his ‘hidden cock’ and find new ways to open a man’s profound capacity for of internal and external orgasmic joy. Men and Women, come to this class if you desire to honor and touch the male body to encourage his deep surrender, emotional release and spiritual connection.

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Charla Hathaway, and best-selling author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), demonstrates on a live male model how to give a man a full body, sensual massage. She covers male anatomy, how to prepare a man for “receiving” deep bodywork, full body strokes, genital massage, and external and internal prostate massage.  Participants do not massage each other (like in her Intro to Couples Tantra Loving  class).  You are invited (your choice) to try the strokes on the model.

Many men have not experienced massage without feeling pressure to perform or “give back.” Often men have not learned to experience the sensual journey instead of focusing on a destination. Many have yet to discover the pleasure of perineum and prostate exploration.  A man receiving this kind of massage may enjoy extended Erotic Trance States and heightened potency, pleasure, and health–including prostate health.

Students are amazed at how comfortable they feel in the company of others learning such sensitive material.  You will drop a sense of shame, separation and isolation around the body, and begin to enjoy, within a community of fellow seekers, an authentic and sacred connection to the body erotic.


“I had no idea how many ways to pleasure a man.  I was in a rut without even knowing it.”  Annie

“Charla is a pro at the body and she talks so easily about sex.  I’m encouraged to drop my shyness.”  Cara

“I had no idea how wired by pleasure my body was and how easy it is to stay in that grove for a long time.”  Roger ,27 years

To register go to & events. You’ll receive confirmation and directions to the class. Limited enrollment to first 13 people, this class sells out.

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexologist and author of Erotic Massage and 8 Erotic Nights. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel.

Couples Tantra Massage: TBA

Heaven and Earth All Day

$190/couple, to register call Charla at 512 626 5037

A Day Just for You and Your Partner: We tune up our cars regularly, we take classes in everything else, time to tune up our relationship and enjoy some quality touch! Spend a leisure day with 6 other couples in a home overlooking Lake Austin (30 minutes from Austin) learning how to touch in new and exciting ways. Bring a mat and towel for your massage, a couple of casual wraps to wear, and a potluck dish to share.

Melting into Breath and Body: Charla combines ancient tantra wisdom with modern gestalt activities to get you into your body, feel more, and learn how to receive and give in deeper ways.  Starting with group warm up activities and ending with couples massaging each other, learn from a Pro new ways to enliven your body, deepen rapport, and cultivate trust.

Receiving a Sensual Massage: Relaxing into Safety and Surrender
Both partners will take turns giving and receiving a sensual massage on each other. The receiver learns to notice, feel and experience their own body instead of taking care of the giver. The Receiver losses need to perform or “give back” during a massage and opens new channels of pleasure and body awareness through breath and focus.

Giving a Sensual Massage: Prolonging Pleasure and Connection
As Giver you hold the container for the receiver’s safety and surrender. The Giver learns techniques to stay present and holds space for whatever experience the receiver is having–without needing to ‘get somewhere’.  Both giver and receiver learn to focus on the journey instead of a destination.  You’ll take home ways to enhance joy, comfort, and heartfelt connection.

Charla Hathaway, certified Sexological Bodyworker, Tantra educator, intimacy coach, and best-selling author of 8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex and Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), her erotic massage classes.  Visit her at, or call 512-626-5037.