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Finding the Sweet Spot – 10/18

Day Workshop with Charla

Saturday, October 18, 9am-5pm, Central Austin, $85/person or $160 w/ a friend

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Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving (or getting) exactly the touch that feels good on our body!  Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously, but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback.

How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection?  Learn through structured, sweet activities to offer and request touch, negotiate the touch you want, and give verbal feedback on the touch you receive.

Practice good erotic communication skills that make you feel safe, relaxed, and sensual. Participants often remark, “I could feel more. I didn’t have to worry about guessing or getting it right. Everything slowed down.”  Expressing clear boundaries makes your playing field bigger…and more exciting!

In this workshop, you will expand your erotic self awareness, trust, and expression. Anxiety about performance melts away and a natural curiosity emerges.  Activities are sensual, not sexual. Couples may choose to practice together; Singles are welcome.  Email Charla for location

Female Erotic Massage: 10/25

Demo class, $85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends, central Austin

single or couple

Women, feel the excitement that comes from knowing what is erotically possible and how to make it happen for you. Men, learn the female anatomy of arousal like never before, how to stimulate the ‘clit’ between her ears, and what to say and what to do to give her the best experience.  Charla demonstrates on a lovely female model new and exciting erotic touch techniques, covers female anatomy, and how and why women surrender (or not!) Participants do not massage each other (like in Charla’s Intro to Couples Tantra Loving class), though you to practice strokeson the model.

Charla shows you how to prepare a sensual space for a woman to ”receive.”  She teaches how to heat up her feminine yin energy to a slow, rolling boil. Charla covers the fascinating and little talked about female internal network of erectile equipment!  You’ll never ‘have to guess’ when is it time to penetrate her inner sanctum again. You’ll learn 3 ways to spike her desire so she’ll desire you more!

Men, women, single or paired, learn erotic massage that relaxes, heals, rejuvenates your hearts.  Learn erotic massage with clear  permission and expectations.  Learn how safety becomes the backdrop for erotic trance states.  This is a one of a kind class taught by an expert.  Deepen your pleasure and intimacy with new confidence and touch skills.  Great lovers are not born, they are made.

To register go and click on Classes & Events. You’ll receive confirmation and location of class.  Limited enrollment to the first 13 people, this class sells out.

What others say:

I learned more in a couple hours than in ten years of marriage.  Robert, 37

I’m 54 years old and you can read all you want, you can talk to other men all you want, but hearing it from two expert women and practicing the strokes makes all the difference.  John

I learned so much about how to talk with my lover about the touch I want.  I learned that I can get what I want and feel connected to him at the same time.  Charla’s a master at making hard things to talk about seem easy.  I’m so thankful.   Ashley

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and author of8 Erotic NightsandErotic Massage. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel. Visit her at, 512-626-5037


Male Erotic Massage: 10/25

Demo class, $85 for men, women, & singles/$160 for paired friends, central Austin

How many?

Men are naturally capable of multiple, whole body orgasms and prolonged waves of bliss…just as women are.  Learn to massage his ‘hidden cock’ and find new ways to open a man’s profound capacity for of internal and external orgasmic joy. Men and Women, come to this class if you desire to honor and touch the male body to encourage his deep surrender, emotional release and spiritual connection.

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Charla Hathaway, and best-selling author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), demonstrates on a live male model how to give a man a full body, sensual massage. She covers male anatomy, how to prepare a man for “receiving” deep bodywork, full body strokes, genital massage, and external and internal prostate massage.  Participants do not massage each other (like in her Intro to Couples Tantra Loving  class).  You are invited (your choice) to try the strokes on the model.

Many men have not experienced massage without feeling pressure to perform or “give back.” Often men have not learned to experience the sensual journey instead of focusing on a destination. Many have yet to discover the pleasure of perineum and prostate exploration.  A man receiving this kind of massage may enjoy extended Erotic Trance States and heightened potency, pleasure, and health–including prostate health.

Students are amazed at how comfortable they feel in the company of others learning such sensitive material.  You will drop a sense of shame, separation and isolation around the body, and begin to enjoy, within a community of fellow seekers, an authentic and sacred connection to the body erotic.


“I had no idea how many ways to pleasure a man.  I was in a rut without even knowing it.”  Annie

“Charla is a pro at the body and she talks so easily about sex.  I’m encouraged to drop my shyness.”  Cara

“I had no idea how wired by pleasure my body was and how easy it is to stay in that grove for a long time.”  Roger ,27 years

To register go to & events. You’ll receive confirmation and directions to the class. Limited enrollment to first 13 people, this class sells out.

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexologist and author of Erotic Massage and 8 Erotic Nights. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel.

Couples Tantra Massage: TBA

Heaven and Earth All Day

Next class TBA, $190/couple, Register below or call Charla at 512 626 5037

To register:

A Day Just for You and Your Partner: We tune up our cars regularly, we take classes in everything else, time to tune up our relationship and enjoy some quality touch! Spend a leisure day with 6 other couples in a home overlooking Lake Austin (30 minutes from Austin) learning how to touch in new and exciting ways. Bring a mat and towel for your massage, a couple of casual wraps to wear, and a potluck dish to share.

Melting into Breath and Body: Charla combines ancient tantra wisdom with modern gestalt activities to get you into your body, feel more, and learn how to receive and give in deeper ways.  Starting with group warm up activities and ending with couples massaging each other, learn from a Pro new ways to enliven your body, deepen rapport, and cultivate trust.

Receiving a Sensual Massage: Relaxing into Safety and Surrender
Both partners will take turns giving and receiving a sensual massage on each other. The receiver learns to notice, feel and experience their own body instead of taking care of the giver. The Receiver losses need to perform or “give back” during a massage and opens new channels of pleasure and body awareness through breath and focus.

Giving a Sensual Massage: Prolonging Pleasure and Connection
As Giver you hold the container for the receiver’s safety and surrender. The Giver learns techniques to stay present and holds space for whatever experience the receiver is having–without needing to ‘get somewhere’.  Both giver and receiver learn to focus on the journey instead of a destination.  You’ll take home ways to enhance joy, comfort, and heartfelt connection.

Charla Hathaway, certified Sexological Bodyworker, Tantra educator, intimacy coach, and best-selling author of 8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex and Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), her erotic massage classes.  Visit her at, or call 512-626-5037.

Gentle Intro to Fantasy Play: TBA

Learn to Role Play with Comfort and Pizazz

w/ Sexual empowerment coach Charla Hathaway

Central Austin,  $65/person or $60/with friend, for singles and partners

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When did we stop playing at sex, when can we start again?  Here we access our playful, curious nature and give it voice.  We learn how bringing out the hidden parts of ourselves enlivens our sexuality.  In class we welcome the whole being, we see how fantasies nourish and feed our hunger for authentic connection.  We learn ways to say the unsaid.  

We learn to trust our fantasies, not as negative, but as positive parts of us. We thrive on play, spontaneity and novelty.  

Novelty is more than a new toy–it’s being confident enough to bring forth hidden parts of ourselves. 

Mystery is more than a new place, it’s looking with new eyes. 

Sex is more than doing things to each other, it’s transcending the personal and entering the cosmic.

I invite you to a gentle intro to fantasy play that will encourage you to grow your partnerships.  Take your loving to the next level.  The class is clothes-on and no sexual touching, good for couples and new partners and singles.

Play the 3 Min Game: TBA

  How to Get and Give the Touch you Want

with sexual empowerment coach Charla Hathaway

Workshop for couples and singles, Central Austin, $55/person/or bring a friend $50/each

To register: call Charla – 512 626 5037 or use PayPal (below)

How Many?


The 3 Minute Game provides structure for you to tune into your body, your desires, ask for what you want, and respond to other’s requests. Playing is easy–you gain confidence and new ways to get more touch in life.  You feel safe, your body relaxes, and you experience more pleasure.

Often we say ‘no’ to intimate touch because we are afraid things won’t go our way–or spin out of control–so we  stop before we start…and end up feeling lonely and touch-starved. In this workshop you learn one-way touch (with permission) that translates into choice, trust and safety.  You’ll learn if the touch is ‘for you” or “for me” and why that is important.

Players of the game often remark, “time stopped, I could feel more, I didn’t have to worry about guessing or getting it right, everything slowed down.” In this context, you may be surprised how comfortable it is to give and receive touch in a group setting. In just a few rounds of the game, your performance anxiety and fear melt away and your natural curiosity and self-expression emerge.

You will both give and get just what you want…nothing more or less. Playing the game takes your intimacy skills to the next level and opens new doors. Workshop activities are sensual, not sexual, and clothes remain on. Couples may practice with each other, and singles are welcome.

Charla Hathaway, certified sex educator, sexological bodyworker and intimacy coach, is author of 8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex for a Lifetime, and Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages). Charla, founder of Austin’s BodyJoy Intimacy School, has helped thousands find new ways to touch, talk and play that feel safe, sensual and satisfying. Sign up for her monthly newsletter.