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7 Erotic Nights – Feb 3


7 Erotic Nights, a course in intimacy and pleasure for partners, teaches you new ways to touch, talk and play.  Online videos, ebook and Charla’s personal coaching calls all guide you through 7 sessions of gentle, hands-on, sensual encounters that build lasting intimacy.  Schedule your 2-hour sessions at your own convenience, and join other couples on weekly group coaching calls with Dr. Charla for insight and inspiration.  Each session’s 4 or 5 exercises are short and sweet, both simple and profound, and more sensual than sexual.  You relax into a new found pleasure, transparency and connection.  One man said, “I discovered a new continent.”

7 Erotic Nights.  Charla’s personal coaching calls let you learn from the other couples (anonymously if desired).  Students say being part of a group is fun and motivating, “You do your homework, but just as much learning (and fun) happens when the whole group gets together to talk about their homework experiences.”  Another graduate said, “Doing it with a group kept us going and made for a richer experience.”

Plan your nights (or afternoons?!) every week, twice a month or even once a month. Easy to follow instructional videos and short ebook prep you for the juiciness of the next adventure.    Charla monitors a private 7 Erotic Nights Facebook Group during the course where couples post questions, comments, highlights and receive daily inspiration.

At the end of the course you are invited to join other 7 Erotic Nights graduates for a weekend retreat (additional tuition) where Charla takes your skills to a new level in a group setting.  The group retreats let you celebrate your achievements in conscious community and further your journey into intimacy.

To learn more, visit and register for yourself and a partner to start your next erotic adventure!

It’s All in Your Hands – Feb 20

It’s All in Your Hands
A workshop on exquisite touch

Saturday, February 20
 10am – 6pm
Singles and couples

with Betty Martin and Charla Hathaway

When you touch your partner (or other friend), are you giving or receiving? Is there a difference? Why does it matter? And what happens when you know for sure?

When they touch you, is it for you, or for them? Can you tell? Does it matter?

What happens when you take ‘Giving’ and ‘Receiving’ apart, so you feel one of them at a time?

For one thing, you find out what they are. You find out how they feed you, how they challenge you, and how they wake you up. They challenge who you think you are as a lover and, quite possibly, as a person.

Receiving and Giving – clean, clear, un-mixed and genuine – few things are more challenging, more liberating – and more fun.

This workshop takes you there.

The other thing that happens when you take them apart, is that you fall in love with both of them – equally. That right there is worth the price of admission.

This workshop:

  • is clothed
  • is experiential – you will have the opportunity to practice and explore. It is only in the experience of it that it makes sense.
  • respects your boundaries – you never have to touch or be touched by anyone you don’t want to. In fact, I’ll be showing you how to be more clear about that for yourself.
  • lets you start right where you are. New to the idea or wildly experienced, doesn’t matter. No matter where you start, you will find a new level of awareness.
  • gives you a game to take home that makes the whole thing easy, fun, sensual, playful, and if you like, sexy.
  • teaches you the 4 Quadrants – how to create them, find them, feel them, and a glimpse into where they can take you. It is the heart of my forthcoming book ‘Learning to Touch: Receiving, Giving, Taking and Allowing’.
  • is fun!

It’s for people who:

  • are seeking the next level of ease, confidence and joy, wherever that is for you
  • love and care for each other, but can’t quite find the key to loving your love life
  • know there is something deeper, more meaningful in sex, but have no idea were to start looking for it
  • have been experimenting with Tantra but find it awkward and contrived
  • are not comfortable ‘receiving’ and don’t know why or what to do about it
  • want to have more fun!


If you are looking for something sexier, you might like the workshop the next day – How to Give (and receive) a Smokin’ Hot Erotic Massage (or a tender one or any other kind). To get reeeeally good at that one, take this one first!


How To: Smokin’ Hot Erotic Massage – Feb 21

How to Give (and receive) a Smokin’ Hot Erotic Massage
(or a tender one, or any other kind)

Sunday, February 21
10 am – 6 pm
Singles and couples

 with Betty Martin and Charla Hathaway

It’s easy to find a video of snazzy strokes for interesting body parts. But if it’s not what the receiver wants – it’s not so hot. In fact, it’s awful.

How to find out and follow what the receiver wants? That’s this class. It’s not quite as easy as strokes – but it’s way more fun. For both of you.

It turns out that the most important part of the erotic massage is the communication. Who knew?

And the other side – when you are on the table, how do you know what you want, much less trust it and communicate it? We’ll cover that, too. Wow – you can actually be touched the way you want? Yes, you can!

And don’t worry, we’ll even include a few snazzy strokes.

This class includes nudity and sexual touch. It is intended only for those who are *already* comfortable with nudity in a group setting. Please be honest with yourself about that.

Nothing is required. You may keep some of your clothes on for the entire time (including your time on the table), you may choose to be touched in whatever way you like – sexual or not. But some will be naked so you need to be comfortable with that. I teach other workshops that are clothed – including the one the day before, It’s in Your Hands.

Limited to 16 persons all genders welcome – female, male, transgendered persons, and any orientation.


About ‘gender balancing’:

Most people, when creating an erotic event, allow only equal numbers of male and female participants. I do not – for many reasons. We are learning here, not hooking up. You can learn these skills with persons of any genital configuration and any gender. Plus, not everyone fits neatly into the categories you might think they do. Quite often, setting aside gender in order to learn and explore is profoundly liberating. Many people have told me that was the biggest ‘Aha’.

So – if you want to touch only people of a particular gender, your best bet is to bring one of them with you.

A note to single women – it’s easy to feel like you are responsible to be available. You are not. I am a big mother bear when it comes to making sure everyone has what they need to learn and to feel safe. C’mon along. I’m going to show you how to be touched in the way you want.


The perfect prequel to this workshop is the one the day before: It’s in Your Hands: a workshop on exquisite touch. It’s clothed and clarifies the real differences between receiving and giving (which is not what you think).


Love & Intimacy Retreat – Oct 23-25

Love and Intimacy Retreat With Charla & Nicole

October 23 – 25, San Antonio, TX

Are you ready to experience a miracle in your relationships? Join with others who are taking love, intimacy and sensuality to the next level. If you desire to move past the barriers that keep you apart…, you are ready!

  • Engage with others while staying connected to yourself.
  • Enjoy playful and powerful exercises in which you express your joy, depth and vulnerability with others.
  • Experience what comes up in each moment with calm and curiosity.

What will I learn?

Click the image below to view a full page flyer (PDF) for full details on the retreat. Then return to this page for registration information (below).

Love and Intimacy Retreat 2015

How Do I Register?

Securely using the PayPal Button below

or call Charla @ 512-626-5037

Meet Your Facilitators

Nicole and CharlaNicole Verwey, LMFT, MS, Licensed Psychotherapist, Certified Life Coach, Relationship Coach and Workshop Facilitator, teaches people through play and coaching “How to Win the Love Game”. A gifted healer, native of Holland, Nicole is initiated as an Oneness Blessing Giver and bestows blessings liberally. 512-670-3955, or visit my website:

Charla Hathaway, PhD, Certified Sexologist, Tantra educator and intimacy coach has inspired over 3000 people to enjoy greater sacred, sensual embodiment. She authored “8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex”, and best selling “Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure: (available in nine languages. 512-626-5037 or visit my website:

Finding the Sweet Spot

Day Workshop with Charla

Next Date TBA, Central Austin, $85/person or $160 w/ a friend

How Many?


Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving (or getting) exactly the touch that feels good on our body!  Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously, but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback.

How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection?  Learn through structured, sweet activities to offer and request touch, negotiate the touch you want, and give verbal feedback on the touch you receive.

Practice good erotic communication skills that make you feel safe, relaxed, and sensual. Participants often remark, “I could feel more. I didn’t have to worry about guessing or getting it right. Everything slowed down.”  Expressing clear boundaries makes your playing field bigger…and more exciting!

In this workshop, you will expand your erotic self awareness, trust, and expression. Anxiety about performance melts away and a natural curiosity emerges.  Activities are sensual, not sexual. Couples may choose to practice together; Singles are welcome.  Email Charla for location

Female Erotic Massage

Demo Class

Central Austin

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Women, feel the excitement that comes from knowing what is erotically possible and how to make it happen for you. Men, learn the female anatomy of arousal like never before, how to stimulate the ‘clit’ between her ears, and what to say and what to do to give her the best experience.  Charla demonstrates on a lovely female model new and exciting erotic touch techniques, covers female anatomy, and how and why women surrender (or not!) Participants do not massage each other (like in Charla’s Intro to Couples Tantra Loving class), though you to practice strokeson the model.

Charla shows you how to prepare a sensual space for a woman to ”receive.”  She teaches how to heat up her feminine yin energy to a slow, rolling boil. Charla covers the fascinating and little talked about female internal network of erectile equipment!  You’ll never ‘have to guess’ when is it time to penetrate her inner sanctum again. You’ll learn 3 ways to spike her desire so she’ll desire you more!

Men, women, single or paired, learn erotic massage that relaxes, heals, rejuvenates your hearts.  Learn erotic massage with clear  permission and expectations.  Learn how safety becomes the backdrop for erotic trance states.  This is a one of a kind class taught by an expert.  Deepen your pleasure and intimacy with new confidence and touch skills.  Great lovers are not born, they are made.

To register go and click on Classes & Events. You’ll receive confirmation and location of class.  Limited enrollment to the first 13 people, this class sells out.

What others say:

I learned more in a couple hours than in ten years of marriage.  Robert, 37

I’m 54 years old and you can read all you want, you can talk to other men all you want, but hearing it from two expert women and practicing the strokes makes all the difference.  John

I learned so much about how to talk with my lover about the touch I want.  I learned that I can get what I want and feel connected to him at the same time.  Charla’s a master at making hard things to talk about seem easy.  I’m so thankful.   Ashley

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and author of8 Erotic NightsandErotic Massage. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel. Visit her at, 512-626-5037


Male Erotic Massage

Demo Class

Central Austin

$85 for men, women & singles. $160 for paired friends

Men are naturally capable of multiple, whole body orgasms and prolonged waves of bliss…just as women are.  Learn to massage his ‘hidden cock’ and find new ways to open a man’s profound capacity for of internal and external orgasmic joy. Men and Women, come to this class if you desire to honor and touch the male body to encourage his deep surrender, emotional release and spiritual connection.

Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Charla Hathaway, and best-selling author of Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), demonstrates on a live male model how to give a man a full body, sensual massage. She covers male anatomy, how to prepare a man for “receiving” deep bodywork, full body strokes, genital massage, and external and internal prostate massage.  Participants do not massage each other (like in her Intro to Couples Tantra Loving  class).  You are invited (your choice) to try the strokes on the model.

Many men have not experienced massage without feeling pressure to perform or “give back.” Often men have not learned to experience the sensual journey instead of focusing on a destination. Many have yet to discover the pleasure of perineum and prostate exploration.  A man receiving this kind of massage may enjoy extended Erotic Trance States and heightened potency, pleasure, and health–including prostate health.

Students are amazed at how comfortable they feel in the company of others learning such sensitive material.  You will drop a sense of shame, separation and isolation around the body, and begin to enjoy, within a community of fellow seekers, an authentic and sacred connection to the body erotic.


“I had no idea how many ways to pleasure a man.  I was in a rut without even knowing it.”  Annie

“Charla is a pro at the body and she talks so easily about sex.  I’m encouraged to drop my shyness.”  Cara

“I had no idea how wired by pleasure my body was and how easy it is to stay in that grove for a long time.”  Roger ,27 years

To register go to & events. You’ll receive confirmation and directions to the class. Limited enrollment to first 13 people, this class sells out.

Charla Hathaway is a Certified Sexologist and author of Erotic Massage and 8 Erotic Nights. Her massage class is featured on the Discovery Channel.

Couples Tantra Massage: TBA

Heaven and Earth All Day

$190/couple, to register call Charla at 512 626 5037

A Day Just for You and Your Partner: We tune up our cars regularly, we take classes in everything else, time to tune up our relationship and enjoy some quality touch! Spend a leisure day with 6 other couples in a home overlooking Lake Austin (30 minutes from Austin) learning how to touch in new and exciting ways. Bring a mat and towel for your massage, a couple of casual wraps to wear, and a potluck dish to share.

Melting into Breath and Body: Charla combines ancient tantra wisdom with modern gestalt activities to get you into your body, feel more, and learn how to receive and give in deeper ways.  Starting with group warm up activities and ending with couples massaging each other, learn from a Pro new ways to enliven your body, deepen rapport, and cultivate trust.

Receiving a Sensual Massage: Relaxing into Safety and Surrender
Both partners will take turns giving and receiving a sensual massage on each other. The receiver learns to notice, feel and experience their own body instead of taking care of the giver. The Receiver losses need to perform or “give back” during a massage and opens new channels of pleasure and body awareness through breath and focus.

Giving a Sensual Massage: Prolonging Pleasure and Connection
As Giver you hold the container for the receiver’s safety and surrender. The Giver learns techniques to stay present and holds space for whatever experience the receiver is having–without needing to ‘get somewhere’.  Both giver and receiver learn to focus on the journey instead of a destination.  You’ll take home ways to enhance joy, comfort, and heartfelt connection.

Charla Hathaway, certified Sexological Bodyworker, Tantra educator, intimacy coach, and best-selling author of 8 Erotic Nights: Passionate Encounters that Inspire Great Sex and Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal (available in nine languages), her erotic massage classes.  Visit her at, or call 512-626-5037.