10 Common Sex Mistakes (and How to Stop Making Them)

Good sex can be as simple as changing bad habits that don’t get us what we want. Most men and women make these 10 common sex mistakes that kill the moment, or cancel out good touching, kissing and connecting. Avoid these pitfalls and turn your sex life into timeless and delicious moments! Charla’s list is back by popular demand!

10 Common Sex Mistakes Men Make

1. You kiss her too soon (instead of allowing the build up of yummie tension)
2. You kiss her too hard
3. You kiss her too wet (mouth mauling)
4. You go for the nipples, not the breasts
5. You go for the ‘goods’ not the whole body
6. You try ‘to do’ too much instead of ‘be’ with her…truly present
7. You have an agenda
8. You don’t ask for directions or permission (huge turn off)
9. You forget to be vulnerable / available for true connection
10. You talk about yourself and forget to ask questions about her

10 Common Sex Mistakes Women Make

1. You expect him to read your mind
2. You resent him when he can’t
3. You don’t tell him what you want
4. You don’t trust your own desires, timing and rhythm
5. You say yes when you mean no
6. You say no when you mean yes
7. You avoid sex because you’re afraid it won’t go your way
8. You are afraid to lead, initiate and pursue
9. You’re at war with your inner slut
10. You think sex is about him, not you

Some of these things are more nuanced while for some, others are more obvious. If you need coaching and guidance from a skilled professional, contact Melissa D! [email protected]

It is never too late to become more aware and build your erotic skillset!