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How My Work Compliments Talk Therapy & Sex Therapy

I help clients shift habitual patterns and develop new pathways for pleasure and presence through…

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When people are exploring ways to heal or enhance their intimate lives, they often find themselves comparing different types of support—talk therapy, sex therapy, and somatic sex education. Each has unique value, and none is inherently better than the others. However, it’s helpful to understand what each approach offers and how they may serve different needs.

Let’s explore how my work as a somatic sex educator differs from talk therapy and traditional sex therapy—and why so many clients find it to be a powerful, embodied complement to cognitive approaches.

What Is Somatic Sex Education?

Somatic sex education is a body-based, experiential approach to intimacy, healing, and pleasure. The term “somatic” comes from the Greek word soma, meaning “the living body.” In this work, the body is not just something we talk about—it becomes a central, active participant in the learning process.

Clients engage in practices like guided breath-work, movement, sound, meditation, body mapping, and conscious self-touch to connect with sensation, desire, and embodied awareness. These practices often take place in a carefully held container that honors boundaries, consent, and safety.

The goal is not simply to “fix a problem,” but to foster a deeper relationship with one’s body, unique erotic expression, and innate capacity for joy. Many of the tools I use—like those in The Pleasure Practice™—help clients become more aware, rewire their pleasure pathways, dissolve shame, and access more aliveness in their sexuality.

How This Differs from Talk Therapy

Talk therapy (often practiced by licensed psychotherapists or counselors) primarily supports people through verbal processing. It helps clients explore their emotions, histories, relationships, thought patterns, and mental health. Talk therapy can be especially useful for unpacking trauma, understanding attachment dynamics, and developing cognitive and emotional insight.

However, when challenges are rooted in embodied experiences—like numbness, disconnection from pleasure, performance anxiety, or sexual shutdown—verbal processing alone may not be enough.

That’s where somatic work offers a vital piece. It enrolls the body back into the conversation. Rather than analyzing or processing an experience, clients are invited to feel it, move with it, breathe through it, and explore how their body responds in real-time. In other words, we move beyond theory and into practice.

Many of my clients have already done years of talk therapy and say, “I understand what’s going on, but I still feel stuck in my body.” Somatic sex education supports that shift from understanding into integration.

What About Sex Therapy?

Sex therapists are typically licensed mental health professionals who specialize in sexual issues. Their work often includes talk-based strategies to address sexual functioning, desire discrepancies, communication challenges, and emotional blocks around sex.

Some sex therapists also incorporate elements of somatic awareness, embodiment tools, and pleasure education—especially those with additional training in somatic or trauma-informed modalities. While they do not engage in hands-on work, many offer excellent guidance around anatomy, arousal, relational dynamics, and sexual health.

My approach differs in that I work directly with the body through experiential, sometimes hands-on education (when appropriate and consented). I guide clients to feel rather than only talk about pleasure, boundaries, desire, and shame. In many cases, clients benefit from engaging both approaches over time—building awareness through talk, and embodiment through practice. 

Why Clients Choose Somatic Support

Many of the people who come to work with me are already well-versed in therapy. They’ve journaled, analyzed, and read the books—but they haven’t yet been guided to actually feel into their body in a safe, supported way that translates to the way their body IS in intimacy. They may be:

  • Struggling to connect with sensation or arousal
  • Carrying shame or fear in their erotic expression
  • Experiencing pleasureless or painful sex
  • Wanting to move from routine-based sex into more conscious, connected intimacy
  • Curious about expanding their erotic range or cultivating deeper self-pleasure practices

As described in The Pleasure Practice™, I help clients shift habitual patterns and develop new pathways for pleasure and presence through tools like breath, sound, movement, and intention. This kind of body-led exploration can lead to profound shifts in self-trust, confidence, and sexual aliveness.

A Holistic Path

There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Some clients work solely with me, others see a therapist alongside our work, and some move between modalities depending on their season of growth. What matters most is finding the support that helps you feel more at home in your body, empowered in your erotic expression, and connected in your relationships.

If you’re not sure what kind of support you need, I recommend having a Clarity call. Ask about a practitioner’s training, methodology, and scope of practice. You deserve to feel informed and empowered in your choices.

And if you’re curious about what it would be like to work together, let’s have a conversation. I’d love to hear more about your journey and explore whether my work could be a supportive next step for you.

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